ME ON MONDAY (THE BOUNCE-BACK MYTH). 9 Jul 2012
Over the past few weeks many of you have been stopping me at the studios, chatting with me post-class or via email and telling me how good I look and how you love that I've lost my baby weight in a really healthy way. Thank you! It feels really good to hear; It hasn't been an easy road for me, and I'm loving that I can push through my workouts again post-surgery.
My weight loss has been slow, steady and healthy. I gained almost 30 pounds during my (almost 42 week!) pregnancy and I have five pounds left to go. Guess what? Mars is 11 months old. That slow and steady pace is "unheard of" nowadays, but it's totally average and very normal. The media-driven, 6-8 week baby bounce back is unrealistic and insulting. Don't believe the hype. Real change takes time.
Just like nobody talks about the trouble that it takes some people to become pregnant and what really happens to your body during pregnancy, nobody talks about how long it takes to get back to you, post-baby. After you have a baby everything changes: your body, your sex drive, your sex life and the way that you feel about yourself. It takes a while to get back to you.
We see women in the media bouncing right back into their clothes, their jobs, their lives. Did you know that it takes the average woman 409 DAYS to get their figure and their sex drive back? Something to think about, ladies. I admit that I even fell into the media pressure trap. For the first 6-7 months after I had Mars I thought my metabolism had shut down. I honestly thought something was wrong with me. I mean, Selma Blair had her baby two weeks after I had Mars and she was back in her Skinny J-Brands in late August!?! What? How??
Being that I had Mars 11 months ago and I'm still not back to my pre-baby body or back in some of my clothes among other things (sex is often not on my radar after a long day), I feel like we should not be so hard on ourselves. I know that many of you feel the same way as you try to balance it all (and get some sleep!). Even a few of my girlfriends who did bounce back relatively quickly (weight-wise), admit that their bodies are completely different now.
Check out my body in the above montage over the past 21 months: pre-pregnancy, 3 months post-natal (nursing, exhausted and very out of sorts), 29 weeks pregnant and 10 months post-natal. This is REALITY.
How do you guys feel about the pressure that the media places on women to bounce back quickly after giving birth? I'll be writing a follow up after I hear some of your thoughts!