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Does fear of judgment or shame about your body ever keep you from getting out there and breaking a sweat and becoming fit? One of the biggest fitness/health hurdles for so many people is being judged or feeling shame about their body. Because perfectionism has a strong grip on so many of us, you may feel like you have to be perfect at the studio, too.

So many of us are guilty of this. How many times have you passed on a particular class or instructor at Lithe or on a swimsuit because you're "too fat"? The entire first year after I had my son, I refused to buy clothes until I fit into my old ones! Have you passed on a particular sport because of shame?

Check out the video above. Sport England set its This Girl Can campaign to the classic 2001 Missy Elliot jam “Get Ur Freak On." It was created to inspire women to wiggle, jiggle, move, and prove that judgement is a barrier that can be overcome.



1. Your body is your ally
Our bodies change through aging, pregnancy, illness, weight loss, weight gain, the list goes on. One thing we must learn to do is love our bodies before, during, and after. Be loyal to your body and love it. It’s the only one you have! Use it to help you win battles, not create them. The sooner we conceptualize our bodies as allies instead of enemies, the sooner we learn to mend the split between what we want and aspire to be, versus what and who we are. 

2. Choose love not fear
Don't let the fear of not being perfect or accepted hold you back from living the life you want. Instead, live your life by loving yourself and others. Going to the studio and popping your hips might feel embarrassing, but fear isn't running your show anymore because you love yourself, right? Six months from now, you'll be surprised how quickly you started Lithing up a storm. You'll also be amazed at your strength and stamina and it’s all because you said goodbye to fear.

3. Don’t let others tell you how much you’re worth
So many of us have a habit of letting other people’s opinion run their feelings and choices. Can you relate? Here’s the thing though: those people don’t know your story. They can never know the depth of your journey or the beauty of your mind, body, and spirit. If people try to tell you otherwise, walk away. When your best supporters tell you that you're awesome, believe it.

4. Slow and steady wins the race
One of the things that can trip you up while getting fit is lack of patience. We do not like to wait for things. You want to give up because it seems too difficult. Try to remember that the course of our life is not a straight path, but a winding one. We all make wrong turns and double back on ourselves. The best thing we can do is not beat ourselves up, but believe that we are worth it. Then just put one foot in front of the other. A Lither recently told me that she started Lithing a few minutes at a time, then 20 minutes, then 60 minutes. Three weeks ago, she completed her first 6x/week since she started three months ago. And it’s all because she stepped into the studio. Set a small goals and try to work at it in small ways every day. 

5. Ignore the Competition
It seems counterintuitive, but when setting up for your sweat session, plop your gloves and props down near a mat in the front of the room (you don't have to be in front of the instructor). This helps you focus on YOU instead of others in the room. 

6. Character matters
Our bodies take so many shapes during our lifetime. It is our character that matters the most! 

7. Chat up your instructors
Let your instructor know that you are nervous, don’t know what to expect, etc. What you perceive as a weakness is actually strength. Asking for help when you need it is hard, but that's how you learn and grow which will improve your practice and break down barriers.

Of course, now the question must be asked — does fear of judgment or shame about your body ever keep you from getting out there and breaking a sweat for your health? Let’s talk about it!

Lithe Instructor Diana K. via Lauren

RAH! 18 Feb 2014

  Lithe's Rhythm Tee & Spur Skirt

Ready?  Okay!  What's Rah?  Rah is a raw, total-body, cardio-focused CCS workout utilizing Thinny Bands and our blue, Higher Power bands.  Set your Pep Talk to empowerment, join the Spirit Circle for beat-box and sassy, vocal cheer motivation, and Lithe towards transformation and healing.  Rock your body, hottie. 

*Rah has a back-bone and deep psychological roots. Stay tuned for Lithe Instructor RZD's, PSY.D. write up on it!  You'll need: Sweat Bands  Tip:  If you like Rock Steady, you'll love Rah!

Image of Lithe Instructor Julie Fannin in Lithe's Spur Skirt & Rhythm Tee via Dom

BEST OF FHH 2013! 27 Dec 2013


What a great year!  Some standouts: Busting workout myths for the Huffington Post, Sayeh and food, Lithe in The New York Times, Sayeh tries the 9 Days of Lithe, Lauren for Fitness, Lither gratitude (before & after), CCS at its best: Rock Steady, Loving your athletic body, my favorite skinny heathen, Bouncing Forward for Huffington Post, Emerald Mary, Me on taking risks, love letters like this, Lithe in Philly Mag, Summer lovin', Positive studio-esteem tips, lithers lithin' all over the world, Tips on trimming the fat talk, my apple, Lithe on the Kris Jenner Show, prepping, the bomb, major transformation, Lithe ink, Lithe's first Varsity team, Old City 6AM'ers on Halloween, my favorite smoothie of 2013, the love letter that pumped us all up, turning 36, Thinkfest, Sayeh's wedding & Forbes!


Lauren Boggi at Pogust Party 2012

Ah, the holidays are upon us. While some of us are polishing off the last of our Halloween candy, others of us have moved on to hoarding recipes for cornbread-stuffing and pumpkin pie… then comes the Christmas cookies and egg-nog, not to be out-done by the champagne cocktails with-which we toast to bring in the new year…

Most people indulge during the holidays. They just do. And most people feel bad about it afterwords. They just do! Enter “detoxes” designed to flush out the body of toxins and waste that accumulated during our Holiday Bender.

I believe in detoxing. One of the things I love about Lithe Foods is the Lithe Foods Three-Day Detox. Why? Because it does detoxify the body and can jump-start weight-loss, but in a psychologically healthy way! You still eat meals, you still get dessert (praise the Lithe Gods! Dessert!). The program does not follow a deprivation model—meaning it does not cut out FOOD, it just provides you with the purest, cleanest form of it! Of course, Lauren could have created a three-day juice cleanse without batting an eyelash. But there is a reason that she did not. As you will read in the following post, juice cleanses, for some, can be dangerous: medically, emotionally, psychologically, and otherwise. . .

I’ve heard Lithers freaking out about the Lithe Foods Holiday Vacation (Oh My God, Becky, did you hear!?...) While I will choose to wait ‘till 2014 to get my Detox on, I am aware that many of you will not. I am also aware that the Holidays, although meant to be joyous, are not always so happy. Whatever our vices may be, they tend to intensify during times of stress, and for many of us, the holiday season is extremely stressful. It’s important to keep all of this in mind so that we are able to make healthy decisions.

For these reasons, I thought it might be meaningful to post some excerpts from a recent interview I did for Redbook Magazine Online regarding my thoughts on all-juice cleanses, weight-loss, and how these elements can contribute to disordered eating. Check out the following post for a peak into my discussion with Sunny Sea Gold, freelance writer and author of Food: The Good Girl’s Drug. As a woman in recovery from her own eating disorder (Binge Eating Disorder, commonly referred to as BED), Sunny’s questions where playfully curious yet honest and caring. I really enjoyed my work with her and hope you enjoy it too.

Image of Lauren Boggi at the Pogust Holiday Party December 2012 via Stuart Goldenberg


Rachel Dore & Redbook Magazine

I've wondered whether juice cleansing could be a form of anorexia for some people -- basically being able to deprive themselves of food, but in a "healthy" context. What are your thoughts on that possibility?

Yes, but I don’t think it necessarily starts out that way… Take the non-pathological person who seriously wants to drop some pounds: while refusing to eat food for 3 days straight would likely not fly with those around them, calling it a “cleanse” makes their behavior seem more legitimate and socially acceptable. In this case, the person, like you said is “depriving themselves of food but in a ‘healthy’ context.” 

How does a Juice cleanse become unhealthy?

It’s a slippery slope because when one does this type of strict cleanse, they will likely see results—this can act as reinforcement for one’s efforts (i.e., when the outcome of a behavior is positive, this increases the likelihood that this person will engage in said behavior again). Further, they might receive praise from others (“you look great! Did you lose weight?!”…. “Oh wow, I really admire your self-control, you are so disciplined!), which further reinforces one’s juice-fasting efforts, and makes them—you guessed it-- hungry (pardon the pun!) for more. So they do it again… and again…

Is it possible for someone to abuse a juice cleanse, as they might a drug?

Yes. Juice cleanses are to be done sporadically, and in isolation. Juice cleanses go wrong when they aren’t used properly. For example, someone may follow a juice-cleanse regimen for a prolonged period of time to lose weight or they might do several shorter cleanses within a short period of time to lose substantial amounts of weight.

OK that makes sense. What else? When does it become pathological?

Someone goes on a three-day bender of eating and drinking whatever they want, followed by a three-day “cleanse” to counter-balance the “damage” they did. It may be seen as a quick fix and might be appealing to someone with that type of lifestyle. BUT it becomes “pathological” when an unhealthy habit is formed: It could quickly turn into detox, then retox, then detox again pattern. This is not unlike the binge/purge cycle of Bulmia Nervosa: consuming a large amount of calories in one sitting and then “purging” the body of said calories through a variety of means. It’s the same underlying cycle regarding impulsivity and loss of control followed by compensatory mechanisms to restore one’s sense of control and emotional peace.

So why do some people try a juice cleanse and emerge  just as mentally healthy pre-cleanse, while others may fall into a full-blown eating disorder as a result?

It has to do with the person’s goals, coping skills, and personality factors. Many people will do a cleanse as a way to lose weight but really it’s supposed to be a springboard for weight loss—a kick-start to a healthy and balanced low-calorie diet. But people don’t get that and instead see this as a quick fix: they do the cleanse… and of course they lose weight—much of which is water weight—and the body goes into starvation mode; then they resume their normal eating habits (and most likely indulge a bit as a ‘reward’) and not only do they gain the weight back, but they might even gain additional weight which might compel them to adopt unhealthy habits in efforts to “re-lose” the weight in addition to that which they gained post-cleanse. They think to themselves “well I thought I was going extreme by doing this intense & expensive three day cleanse but not even that worked so I guess I need to go even more extreme!”

On the other hand, do you think it's probably okay for someone who really has no eating disorder tendencies to try a cleanse if they're curious?

Definitely. The most important thing is to educate your self, and have a good understanding about yourself. What makes you tick? What triggers maladaptive coping behaviors? If you have struggled with disordered eating, it’s probably not a good idea for you to introduce a rigid diet into your life because that would trigger all kinds of thoughts and behaviors that aren’t good for you.

Regarding juice cleanses, I choose to remain completely neutral. I am not saying that you should do them, and I am not saying that you shouldn’t do them. For some people, doing a juice cleanse can be the beginning of a beautiful journey towards better health, totally! I am only saying that, like adopting any diet or lifestyle change, you educate yourself.

Any advice for those of us who are curious to try a juice cleanse?

Let me first say that I am no expert in juice cleanses! Nor do I possess advanced knowledge in nutritional counseling! If you want to try it, do your research so you know what you are putting your body through, because it is a shock to the system and should only be done per the directions of the company supplying the cleanse in conjunction with a consultation with your physician. Set realistic expectations. If you want to try it, make sure the reasons for which you are doing it are healthy.

What is the WORST piece of weight loss advice you have ever heard?

Such a good question! I have definitely heard many things, but the sad part about that is most of the things, no matter how disturbing/ grotesque etc. they may be, do work to some extent other wise they wouldn’t have been expressed to me.  I choose not to comment on that or repeat these kinds of things because that makes those tips available to others. It’s so easy for things like this to be taken out of context and used for evil instead of good! Even though most people would see those things and laugh or cringe, someone who is not well, psychologically, would see or read that and think “oh. I’m going to try that!”

Article via Redbook Magazine Online & image of Lithe Food's Cashew Milk Mini via Lauren

SAYING "F-YOU" TO THE "F" WORD 31 Jul 2013

Lithe at Bands

Give Your Thoughts a Makeover

Re-define your concept of “thin.Use words! Replace the old ‘fat’-laden language with new language. Or, even better, get rid of that word all together! Words like “skinny” and “thin” carry a lot of unhealthy connotations that we have picked up through exposure to things like the media over the years. I personally try to steer clear of that kind of language. I prefer words like “fit”, “trim,” and “lean.” If I were to define my ideal version of myself, it would be something like, “lean all over with boobs and a butt!” The only “Twiggy” reference in my life is related to Lithe class scheduling.

Stay Positive

Instead of immediately casting- off a negative thought about your body, allow yourself to honor and acknowledge it. Label it as ‘fat talk’ and then promptly replace the thought with something positive. For example:  “I’m stocky” becomes “I’m petite and strong!”

Get Inspired

Get over that ideal ‘perfect version’ of yourself. Try to let go of that and start noticing people with your body shape. Pay attention to how they play up or down certain features for a polished, proportional look. Check out style blogs for different body types, or create a personal style look-book for inspiration.

Adjust the Focus on your Lens

And while you’re at it, zoom out a little bit! Try to avoid hyper-focusing on one particular element or area of the body. Instead of focusing on what your body is not, concentrate instead on what it is, and all that it does for you. Next time you are feeling down, do a set of calf-pumps (arms: your choice!) or drop down for a quick set of burpees!

The Golden Rule

Just as you treat others as you wish to be treated, do the same for your body. Talk about your body respectfully, and honor how powerful it is. I love this analogy I heard once: think about a dandelion. Technically it’s a weed, but it could also be a flower. How you label it, however, will influence how you feel about it. Call it a “weed” and it ends up in the trash. Call it a “flower” and it ends up in a vase on the kitchen table. You will likely take better care of your body if you think about it with respect, awe, and gratitude.

Image of Lithe Instructors via Dom


Lauren Boggi at Bands

“Look at this pooch! No matter how much I suck in, there is still that little roll right there!”

“You’re curvy, so you can get away with it, you can’t even tell I swear! See, these love-handles are way more noticeable on me because I have no boobs or butt.”

“What love handles?! SHUT UP, if you think those are love handles … I don’t even want to know what you think of these (Squeeze, squeeze)...”

Fat talk¸ or talking negatively about the shape or size of your body, is a common type of banter that women (especially) are often exposed to. As this study from Northwestern University shows, most women engage in Fat Talk. The most common response observed in these types of social exchanges are: 1) denying that one’s friend is fat and 2) stating that in fact they are the one that is fat... Sound familiar?

Even though the focus is on physical, observed flaws of the body, the damage happens internally. Talking about yourself this way it introduces a negative thinking pattern that quickly impacts other domains of life. This University of Arizona study found that fat talk predicts lower levels of body satisfaction, higher levels of depressive symptoms, and greater perceived pressure to be thin. Talking smack about your beautiful body is harmful not only to yourself, but can also negatively affect how others feel about themselves. Recent research has found that hearing others engage in fat talk not only makes us feel guilty about our own bods, but also makes us more likely to engage in fat talk, ourselves.

Still feel like whining about your cellulite? Fine, but people will like you less. A recent study conducted at the University of Notre Dame’s Body Image and Eating Disorders Lab found that women who engage in fat talk are far less-likeable compared to those who make positive statements about their body.

I realize it is unrealistic to trash Fat Talk completely… we are all here, working out together, because we care about our bodies. Some of us are here with specific goals in mind. For example, if you are packing your Lithe schedule with Peeled and Wings to tone your upper-half, it is not unreasonable to want to pay closer attention to your arms for the month! Totally normal, as long as you are able to keep things in perspective: having crazy-ripped arms is cool, but it won’t make you a better mother, nor will it make dinner with the in-laws less-awkward…

As women, we often equate the way our body looks with certain desirable attributes and ideas (e.g., success, achievement, happiness etc.) but in so doing, we are taking power away from ourselves as autonomous, strong women. We are minimizing the importance of our mental capacities and capabilities to achieve these ideals, which in reality, have no correlation with how toned our arms are.

So…what kind of locker room buddy do you want to be?! It’s up to you what you say and to whom, but think twice about this kind of blasphemous babble now that you know the consequences it could have on you and those around you.

 Stay tuned for my tips on ways to keep your internal and external dialogues “fat”-free!

Image of Lauren Boggi at the bands wearing Lithe via Dom



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